Things I’m glad I did at 19
Investing in myself yes and it has been a multi layered approach. Looking at my journey of personal development it has been a rollercoaster journey and used stairs often. at 18 I decided I’ll embrace personall growth and i did that with a lot of uncertainty, of joy and tears, a lot of rejections and contributions. AND channeling my inner Spartacus obviously.
Super excited as i turn 20 , nine months from now!!!l
Showing up
i have showed up despite not knowing or preparing. being ready. i showed for jobs that surpassed my qualifications and opportunities while it was easy to not show up i did, i remember the first day i ever used zoom was on a small mi phone. and i graduated from the online class,i gave myself to knowledge and got to understand myself more. and the lessons i got was in life we are never ready we get ready by doing by starting.And in showing up i got rejected and this to some point caused me to question my worth but the more rejected i got the stronger i got in chasing my pursuits.And yes rejection is feedback i determine my response do we cry forever or cry and get up? i belong to the later. I learned about weakness that get me creeping in the comfort zone and procastinating but regardless i show up even when i’ll get a big NO or ignored because i’m building me
Challenging myself.
Another day another challenge. well i call it another challenge a new layer of me. each month i find something to challenge me sometimes it costs my sleep and requires me to sacrifice but i always challrnge myself the goal isnt to smash the challenge the goal is to enjoy the process through ewhich i smash the challenge
Developing a relationship with myself
each relationship you share with others is a reflection you share with yourself.so you gotta invest in the relationship with its not just merely eating or bathing, its how you talk to yourself, how you treat yourself. SO the next time you feel lazy to cook ask yourself if you would let your spouse, sibling or child sleep on an empty stomach because you are lazy to cook. KEEPING fit and remembering to do tiny stuff for yourself don’t wait for someone to tell you that they love you tell yourself, buying you your fav stuff. And look good for you smell good for yo dress up for you, dance for. Just be crazy about continously working on a relationship with yourself and if you and you are Excellent imagine with others!
Adventure.
explore, DORA THE EXPLORER! adventure yes, i adventure with everything even when they seem scary.And i’m talking about climbing HIMALAYIN! something within your budget lol and sometimes it doesnt have to evolve money go on an adventure with how you declutter your spaces, your gadgets, how you look and even your MIND! and there are a billion ideas to adventure. the more i adventure the more i understand myself how the world works, why things are the way they are. (will do a single write for this!)
Vulnerable
asking for help, if you are like me to some point you wanted to look cool and inteligemnt, especially male folks gather here asking for help is intelligence, and a strength if you don’t know ask it saves time and your energy. THEN Admitting mistakes saying sorry genuine without sugarcoating andeven prevented arguements. this apllies to yourselgf admit like YOH girlie we messed up nothing more nothing much.And triggers being okay without being okay. SOMETIMES YOU JUST WANT TO CRY AND FEEL SAD. which is normal and sometimes it even in the midst of people i say you take it out than keep it and build a crying space in your body.
God factor.
i have been working on my relationship with him i have made to point to talk to him. even for 2 mins and going to church even if i don’t feel like it because i’m nothing without him and always comes through for me.
